Relationship Problems
Relationships are hard, complicated, difficult, emotional, heartbreaking, and anything else you want to call it. But at the end of the day, we revolve around them. Our lives revolve around LOVE.
WHAT'S LOVE?
It's just an emotion, it doesn't even really exist, does it? We can't look at it, we can't hold it, we can't see it! So, how can JUST an emotion have such a great impact in a person? Sounds stupid, doesn't it? But, as stupid it may sound, this is how we live our lives and this is how the world works.
Just the other day, I was watching the news, and there was a headline that literally shocked me! A man, in Melbourne, Australia; had killed his 4 year old daughter. He threw her off the highest bridge in Melbourne, JUST because he was losing the battle of her custody. This reminded me of one of those phrases you normally hear in those dramatic soup operas: "If I can't have you, nobody else can!". Until what extend, is a person really capable to harm somebody else, because of love? It's very scary! I am very sure, that not in your whole entire life-time, you would ever even imagined that, the person you once loved, got married to, and had a child with, would actually kill your innocent child over an adult dispute. I'm horrified!
So, I wonder... If this father really loved his child, why would he murder her? OR, did he really loved her that much, that maybe he thought she was in danger with his mom? OR, was he just angry with the decisions made in court, that he decided to hurt his ex-wife and kill their child?
As a mother, I can not think of ANY explanation for such action. But, I do wonder: What kind of LOVE is that?!
Now jumping to another example... I just got home from Butter Factory, I work there every Wednesday. And tonight, my friend and her boyfriend joined me for a while, to have a good time. Oh, but we did not end up having such a great time. Because they got into an argument. What about? Apparently, there was a girl that was trying to hit on my friend's boyfriend and he smiled at her and walked away. What's the problem? That he smiled at her. My friend got so pissed off! She told him to back off and walked away from him. Does this scene sound familiar to any other couples out there? I'm sure. Because it certainly sounds familiar to me. He didn't really do anything wrong; he didn't talk to her BUT he did smile. So, what does that mean? That he liked the fact that she was hitting on him? Or, was he just being friendly? We all know that men, don't really think about what's RIGHT to do (or what WE would like them to do). They act first and think second.
I know for sure, that I would have also reacted the same way as my friend did, but this time, I was not the one in the situation, I was looking at it from the outside. And, oh boy! Doesn't it all look so different! And that's when I realized it. Maybe, we (girls) tempt to just flip out too much on our men.
I couldn't believe (and I still can't believe) that I thought that!! I am a person that has TOO much attitude. And I'm aware of it. I do not let thing like this slip. I would argue about it.
But the argument was not over. We go outside of the club, and that's when things get too uncomfortable for me. I was caught in between my friend and her boyfriend arguing! Then, it happened. He tried to make an excuse for himself.
OKAY, LET'S STOP RIGHT HERE FOR A MINUTE!!
My friend is already pissed at him, and then he LIES about the situation. Let me just say something to all the men out there!!!!!!!!! THE WORSE THING YOU CAN IN A SITUATION LIKE THIS, IT'S LIE!!!!! You are already arguing about something she SAW! It's not something she HEARD, she SAW it! Why would you lie? He just made it worse! And so the argument continued and I just decided to come home. So, does my friend's boyfriend really loves her? Yes, he does. Then, why would he lie? Lying in a relationship it's not good. Whether is a big or a small lie. It affects the relationship, A LOT.
He was just trying to stop the argument and tried to find an easier way out. But, I don't think that men realize that there's no an easy way out when you are arguing with your girlfriend. He could have just admit what he had done and said sorry. That would have been IT.
This particular situation with my friend and her boyfriend, really made me think. I need to start making some changes, because I don't want to have these type of arguments anymore. I don't want to end up having a bad night, over something so small. Later on, my friend and her boyfriend will be okay. They will make up. The only result out of this, was just a bad night.
Relationships are filled with little arguments like this, and are they really worth it? No, they are not. So, why have them? I most certainly know that I have some personal changes to make.
My advice to other girls AND, especially to myself is: CHILL THE F*CK OUT!!!
I have made mistakes like this, but I know I don't want to make them anymore. I love my life and there's nothing I would like to change. I am very grateful for everything I have and for everyone that's in my life. From now on, I will show more appreciation, have more understanding and will try to be more patient.
It's time to update my blog!!!
I'ma start writing on it more often, promise :)
Tomorrow is my birthday, another year of life...
And ima start it with this qoute for you all
"I hope your dreams take you... to the corners of your smiles, to the highest of your hopes, to the windows of your opportunities, and to the most special places your heart has ever known"
